Russian school and British gymnastics

Bismillah,

We have lately adopted more of Unschooling Approach to home-ed. Alhamdulillah we do English 2 times a week, Maths 2 times a week, Qur’an daily, Arabic 3-4 times a week. There is no timing, when and how long the lessons last depends on their mood and aptitude.

Hifdh/Qur’an Reading. Sumayya still reads tons of books a week. I am seriously thinking of cutting down on her reading hours as she is again having meltdowns when it comes to Qur’an time. She has forgotten some of the surahs she has memorized previously. Incident today gave me a final push to reach a deal with her; we have agreed every day after breakfast she goes back to her room to revise 2-3 pages I set as a task and come back down when ready to read to me off by heart. We are also reading 5 ayahs a day from surah Baqara and have read 4 pages of it so far.

Safiyya and Ibrahim do their Hifdh every morning without a problem, mashaAllah. Safiyya can read the surahs she has memorized and still on Nurani Qaida too. Ibrahim has memorized surah Fatiha and the last 3 surahs from the back (Nas, Falaq, Ikhlas). But we have to prompt the beginning of each ayah sometimes. We all use the same method: Listen and repeat.

Arabic. Alhamdulillah, Sumayya can read, write and understand a little bit. She has built on the vocab and some grammar with Gateway to Arabic Book 2. We practise handwriting too, though I decided it is not so necessary at this age. I think the main focus should be understanding from reading, hence building on vocabulary and comprehension skills.

Safiyya can read, tries to copywrite and learns vocab.

Maths. We have not done MEPs in 3 months now. Sumayya attends Maths classes at RE once a week and I do follow up class at home on what has been taught  once a week. Alhamdulillah for this opportunity and a blessing as I feel the burden of teaching Maths has been taken away. But again, I dont think this is enough once she is past 7 and should definitely be doing more at home.

English. The same old way- reading lots of books and follow up discussion with Q&A. We practise story-telling sometimes where I ask them to narrate a story off memory to me. Sumayya still reads a lot. She read The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe in just around 4 hours (though I dont think the content was appropriate for her age as she could not differentiate if it was real life story due to world war 1, which was a fact but then how come wardrobe can be so big to host kingdom? Children at this age do not get fantasy and it is best to delay any such books). Then on the weekend we watched the film, only half of it as it was too long. We are going to watch the next half on Saturday inshaAllah. Meanwhile she is rereading the book. She takes on a lot of writing porjects on herself simply for pleasure: writing letters, writing stories/poems, making posters etc.

Safiyya reads shorter story books but needs encouragement to read. I do guided reading even though she can read on her own. I was wrong to assume that once a child learns how to read, their reading interest will just take off and they will be flying with so many books daily. Safiyya is more interested in helping me around the house mashaAllah. She does so much tidying up, polishing and general cleaning. Everyone is always shouting out her name in our household “Safiyya, get me this. Safiyya, get me that. Safiyya, take this upstairs. Safiyya, take this downstairs”. I find it difficult when she is not around *smile*

Russian School and British Gymnastics. They have been attending gymnastics and Russian school on Mondays. MashAllah, it is the girls only session at gymnastics where they have learned a lot in just 3 weeks. They enjoy it a lot and we sometimes watch Olympics gymnastics videos and attempt to do some basic movements.

Russian school is going great too. Finally, after so many months I have enrolled them and Alhamdulillah, I am so glad I did. Although Safiyya is not much interested, it still benefits her to be in that environment where everyone speaks Russian. Sumayya, on the other hand, has picked up so much. She can read, write and understand a little bit. She has memorized poems in Russian, learnt the colours, numbers, days of the week, months of the year, seasons, fruit and vegetable names in Russian. She can say few odd words in conversational Russian and always eager to finish her homeworks on time.

At times I come so close to giving up the idea of homeschooling simply because of sibling fighting and rivalry in the house. Sumayya is always arguing with Safiyya, Safiyya is always fighting with Ibrahim and Ibrahim is always jealous of baby Saida. At times dealing and judging between them is just too much, especially if they start complaining that “I am not being fair. I am taking so-and-so’s side because I love him/her more”. I am sure this is nothing new to mothers who have multiple children within short age gap. I think of the peaceful days where I can have 5-6 hours all to “myself” without kids. But then comes the painful thought of sending them to school and I start putting the pros and cons of home-ed and public school on two sides of my scales. And then I say “Have some sabr and these days will pass”. I am having more of these thoughts lately and praying Allah will guide me to what is good.

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3 thoughts on “Russian school and British gymnastics

  1. This post is three years old, however it’s always relevant! I have struggled with this also and although homeschooling may not be for everyone, I promise it is worth it! I have homeschooled, unschooled, private schooled, charter schooled and free online schooled. They had their benefits but all the ones outside of my home the drawbacks were not worth it and most of the time my children decided they’d rather home school, despite loving the social aspect. Schools weren’t interesting or challenging enough or they expected them and the whole class to learn, understand and pass every topic at the same pace and learning style for everyone. That’s just a FEW problems.
    However, some Muslims find good schools that meet their child’s needs without being detrimental to their development or islamic character and identity.
    Like you said, patience is the key and making dua to Allah is the solution. You must take it one day at a time, sometimes deciding JUST the next interaction, the next moment with your child will be positive. I got this idea from unschooler blogger Sandra Dodd. She said concentrate on the relationship with your child and the academics will follow. This is the sunnah of rasulullah salla lahu alahi wa salam.

    We are here to worship Allah and raise our children to know Him and practice this beautiful deen. Our goal is paradise.
    Sometimes just keeping the children fed, our prayers on time and perhaps the trash taken out on time is all we accomplish that day, but it’s enough.
    We may become very busy as moms and homeschoolers and we don’t always have time to read but I have found the more you make the intention to do something the easier it becomes bi ithni Allah. One book i liked to help with Sibling Rivalry was :Siblings Without Rivalry.
    What helps is NOT to get involved in their disputes and let them work it out (5 and up) unless of course, the situation is dangerous. The book explains how to do this but I am sure you can find a short article online or on pinterest. The bottom line is following how Rasulullah salla lahu alahi wa salam was with children. He didn;’t accuse or blame, he didn’t even ask them, “Why didn’t you do such and such” ! He was loving but firm, correcting but gentle. Most of what I’ve read about modern psyschology and raising healthy children I have found in the sunnah. al hamdulilah.

    assalamou alaikom wa rahmatullah may Allah give us righteous children who will pray for us.

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