The inability to weep is caused by Hardness of the Heart.
Hardness of the Heart is caused by multiplicity of the sin.
Multiplicity of the sin is cause by forgetfullnes of the Death.
Forgetfulness of death is caused by ambitious expectations.
Ambitious expectations are caused by excessive Love of the Life in this world.
Ok, this one is to control the behavioural side of your children lol. Children usually respond to these kind of things very well. Again, get child involved in making the tree.
Explain the rules: for each good deed they earn a leaf or a flower sometimes. You write in the leaf/flower in detail what was their good deed ie: “Being patient while mommy was on the computer” (lol), “being quite when mommy was putting baby to sleep” “changed her uniforms without being told after school” “not being fussy about food” etc.
Child gets to stick his/her own leaf/flower on the tree, wherever she chooses. Encourage him/her to read his/her good deed, get them to number the leaves. (getting some numeracy, reading, writing out of the way alhamdulillah).
For every twenty leaves/flowers, you get them one prize. Again, write down the things you have been planning to get regardless and get one at a time, for each twenty leaves. Explain that for each bad deed one leaf/flower gets crossed out, so they will have one less.
This is such a simple thing, I am even shy to share it. But since you asked, you will get the idea inshaAllah. This helped me to get organized with our time. That is from the time big S arrives home about 3:30pm till bed time, usually around 7:30pm. I will try to dedicate this time solely to children, as much as I can. Not always.
The chart is divided into 6 sessions as you can see at the top. The sections are called: 1.Quran 2.Arabic handwriting 3. Arabic vocabulary 4.Numeracy/Math 5. Literacy/English 6.School home work titled as S.H.L initials of S’s school. I got both girls involved in making their own learning charts. So, they got the nappy box, made flat, scocthed white sheet over it, tried to decorate it etc. On the left hand side we have got their names, on the right the prize list. When a child does an activity related to each section, she draws a smiley face under a relevant section. For Quran, they have to recite 5 surahs daily and get to draw one smiley face under quran section. For numeracy, big S currently doing addition/substraction using numbers 0-20, small S recognizing numbers 0-10, revising shapes. To earn a smiley face under Literacy section, big S should read a book, translate it to small S and we all discuss the content. whereas small S is doing 3 phonics a week plus recognizing 5 high frequency words. So, they have different targets approporiate to their age level.